How I Got Over Being Self-Conscious (and skyrocketed my business)

How I Got Over Being Self-Conscious

Hey ladies and welcome to Life Empowerment Project. I’m Vicky Murgatroyd, and in this week’s blog, I wanted to share something a little more personal than we usually go. I feel that this is great experience I’ve had that is really valuable to share with you guys. I know a LOT of women, particularly women in business, are finding that they are held back by this particular thing.

So…How I Got Over Being Self-Conscious, and how it skyrocketed my business.

It is absolutely essential for you to get ultimate success and be the ultimate enjoyment out of life, for you to be the best version of you.

The best version of you is not self-conscious, she doesn’t care what other people think, she doesn’t waste her time wondering what so and so thought about this that and the other. It’s a really interesting journey that I’ve been on and I’m sure a lot of you can resonate with being self-conscious, feeling that fear of putting yourself out there, or however it appears for you.

What I want you to know most of all is something I touched on last week – EVERYBODY experiences this at some point, to some degree. It doesn’t matter how confident you appear on the outside, everyone experiences some level of self-consciousness, and it’s totally fine!

How I got over being self-conscious.  Firstly – and this was a big step! –  I had to start valuing myself. That was a journey, and one well worth going on.

Start looking at what you value. If you’re in a situation and you want to make a certain decision, but you’re not making it because of so and so and what they might think, you’re not putting yourself first! Always be strong in knowing what it is that you want, and then you can make your decisions based on that.

When you’re unsure of your stance on things, it’s very easy to get swayed by what other people might think of what you decide, or what you do. When you’re sure and strong, it inspires confidence in your team and clients, and in yourself!

It breaks that habit you used to have, and builds a new one that is so well worth having! When you have that confidence, you take action, which builds more confidence – now THAT is a cycle you want to get into!

How I got ever being self-conscious, was that I started valuing what I stood for. I became really aware of what I wanted, and operated from that space. Because if you don’t value you, no one will!

I also realised, as I mentioned back at the beginning, that everybody feels like this. In a lot of the business groups I’m in, I always used to sit and look at people thinking ‘how does she do that’ – how is it that she can get up and speak like that and feel fine, and she didn’t have to plan, and she sleeps great the night before…etc! It actually came down to me noticing more and more that people do get nervous, get worried about getting up in front of other people or launching a new product – whatever it might be, and that’s completely normal!

And you know what, they feel the fear, and do it anyway! And that’s the only way to grow!

Did you know, for instance, that where you experience nerves in your body, is in your solar plexus, and it’s only half an inch apart form where you experience excitement as a physical sensation in your body. When you start to look at things as just sensations, rather than attaching ‘emotion words’ to those sensations, it frees you up a lot. If you have a flutter in your tummy or your body feels jittery, until you start to really interpret what that means to you, they’re just sensations. That is absolutely key – to step back from the old habits from the way you used to feel. The way you used to feel has created your current problem. When you create your solution, you will not be feeling those things anymore. SO it’s all about valuing you, stepping back from the way you used to look at the world, and also being aware that everyone’s in the same boat.

You leading by example is huge. And very very inspiring for other women around you. I’ve been inspired by some amazing women, who, if they’d given in to their fears, doubts, and insecurities, and the ‘what’s going to happen if I do this’ scared voice…then I wouldn’t have had that inspiration! The world conscious wouldn’t be shifting as it is!

So just a few things for you guys to bear in mind…and also, what I want you to bear in mind, is that you are absolutely extraordinary. You have this ego-voice in your head, this voice that tells you ‘oh we can’t do that’ or ‘who’s going to think what about us if we do that’ – this constant chattering in your mind. And that voice – it’s not real! It’s just ego, and the minute you step back from the ego and just do what you love, you get in flow, you completely lose self-consciousness and you grow.

You’re not going to walk on stage and speak like Tony Robbins. I’ve mentioned this in a blog before. But Tony Robbins didn’t first speak on stage like Tony Robbins! We build these things up.

When I first started to speak in groups I was terrified! I had this wobble in my voice and everything else! When I first started doing videos, I was terrified! When I first started putting out written blogs, I was terrified! It’s all just a progression. And it’s an exciting progression!

Everything that you’ve done in your life has brought you to this point. And everything you will do from now will lead you to your ultimate success. You are extraordinary.

If any of you are struggling conceptualising this and putting it in action, get in contact with us. Make sure that you get this nailed. As soon as possible. All it’s doing is holding you back, keeping you small, and depriving the world of what you have to offer.

You are extraordinary! If you need help implementing this, just click over to the sidebar now, pop in your details and you’ll be redirected lickety-split to our booking page so you can claim a spot in my calendar that works for you. Self-consciousness is holding you back from being the very best version of you that gets stuff done, makes changes and makes a huge impact (and gets paid…of course!)  I promise you, you will find the extraordinary within you, and you’ll love it!!

Thanks for listening as always and I can’t wait to hear from you and see exactly what we can do to make 2016 as extraordinary as you are.

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