How To Stop Doubting Yourself

Hey guys and welcome to this week’s blog – I’m Vicky Murgatroyd, the founder of Life Empowerment Project and in this week’s blog, I want to teach you directly from Master Your Emotions, our premium 8 week program designed specifically to transform the mindset and internal processes of female entrepreneurs. This week, I want to share one of our foundational principles in there, which is giving yourself validation and allowing that self-doubt to just fade. Specifically, what you’re going to learn today is how to silence self-doubt.

Self-doubt is a process that we do. It’s a thought pattern that we go through, and because that thought pattern has been run many many times, I want you to imagine – just like with any other thought pattern that we’ve learned – that you’re coming to a forest, and you’ve got to cut your path through that forest. The first time that you cut that path – it’s difficult, then the second time you come to that same forest, do you cut yourself a brand new path, or do you go down the path that’s already laid – the path of least resistance? Of course you go down the path that’s already prepared for you.

Very very soon, that pathway becomes very much worn in, and therefore it’s very easy for the neurons to fire down that pathway, which is exactly what happens in your brain, meaning you run those same old habits of the way you used to think. It terms of this, it takes practice, repetition and dedication for you to consciously apply yourself to then thinking in a different way.

Whenever those thoughts come up of you doubting yourself – is to recognise those thoughts. Step back and recognise what you’re thinking, and that means that you’re no longer caught up in that tidal wave, you’re the observer of that – and therefore you’ve got loads of control back already. So that is step number 1 – step back and recognise what you’re thinking.

Second step to silencing self-doubt is to switch those thoughts up. It’s difficult to just quiet your mind and shut that internal rhetoric off, and it’s easier to think differently instead. As soon as you find yourself doubting yourself, just affirm to yourself who you are and what you bring to the table. This is where it comes directly from Master Your Emotions, the women on the program do a ritual every single morning, where they affirm all that they are, all the amazing things they are bringing to the table. Very quickly, through repetition – just like going to the gym – you build a brand new muscle.

Instead of falling back into the old response of ‘I’m not good enough’ or ‘I could never do that’ or ‘that could never be me’, you go into the immediate response of ‘I have everything it takes to be successful, I have it within me, I’m smart, I’m funny, I’m well connected, I’m amazing with people and I have a huge vision that I’m committed to.’

These become your new ‘fall back’ thoughts, so it becomes more and more natural every time. Only in the initial stages is where it requires that conscious effort, and the more you repeat the new pattern, the stronger it becomes and the less you’ll find yourself slipping back into those old patterns of doubt. IF you ever do find yourself doubting, you’ll snap yourself naturally, notice yourself doing it, and run the new pattern. It gets easier and easier.

To stop doubting yourself, affirm every day to yourself what it is you’re bringing to the table. Become conscious of those underlying thoughts you’re feeding yourself day in day out. I’ve said this before in a blog, and I’ll say it again undoubtedly, but imagine for a day that you’re going to walk around with a megaphone – instead of your thoughts running inside your head, they will all be projected outward. How are you speaking to yourself? Become conscious of it! You’re never going to bully yourself to success – never! You have to become your best friend, your biggest ally and your biggest supporter!

Affirm everything you are, because you are extraordinary – you have amazing things that the world needs to see, and the minute you start recognising it is the minute that can be utilised.

Affirm to yourself every single day, build that new muscle, and very quickly you’ll be falling back on self-confidence, self-assurance and self worth instead of that old ‘stuff’ that was never serving you anyway.

Self-doubt is one of the biggest killers of your dreams. We have all these great ideas, but the reason we don’t action them is because we don’t think we’re good enough, etc! The minute you take control of that is the minute you start acting in a different way. Remember your thoughts become your feelings, become your actions, become your habits, become your LIFE!

When you take control of that right at the beginning of that process, all of a sudden you take control of the entire process, and that is where you deserve to be! And as a female entrepreneur, the rest of the world is waiting on you too! Switch up those thoughts, take control back and very quickly you’ll be falling back on all the self-confidence you could ever need, to make your life exactly what you want it to be.

This is a topic that I’m massively passionate about – this is the exact space I used to be in: doubting myself, being awful to myself, and generally thinking all these bad things about myself. I could not have made the transition to where I am now still thinking those all thoughts. You won’t be able to make the transition into what you want by thinking those old thoughts either. That is why I’m SO passionate about it, and so passionate about you making this change too. You deserve it!

If you are struggling, get in touch with us! I’ve got 5 calls as I always do every single week, looking to connect with the right women who we can help, who we can mentor, and who we can help change those internal processes so you can change the external exponentially! If that’s you, and you’re ready for a big change, get in touch! We love to connect with women just like you!

That’s all for today’s blog, thank you very much guys. In the mean time, before I see you on next week’s blog – live empowered and be inspired.

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